Do you feel like 31 days has helped you open up more about your child(ren) and your grief?

NO, personally I feel like I am doing what I can to keep Sophia's memory alive. I feel that being a mother of twins even though one is with me and one is in my heart has its own challenges. I know mom's with twins and they had/have different challenges from parents of singletons.

I strive to keep Sophia's name in our life so Mya knows she is not an only child. I don't want Mya to ever feel like her life is not complete. I also do not want to ever hide anything about Sophia from Mya.

Day 30:

How are your preparing for the end of the year? 

 (ie: Holiday's and starting a new year)

This year has not been my best. I started the first 5 months sick and then at the end of May I found out there is a mass in my breast. Things went down hill from there. 

The end of the year is also when it starts to get busy at work for me. It is when reality sets in that tax time is here.

So we enjoy our time as a family, we enjoy the holidays. This year I am not planning on going over board with Mya and gifts. I plan on taking her to do as many holiday actives as we can. It is about our time together. I am also thinking about ornament ideas for Operation Ornament for this year and have yet to come up with anything. So if you have a good idea, let me know.

As always Eddie and I will be purchasing toys to donate to the fire department for their toy drive. This year we plan on taking Mya as she seems to be understanding more of Christmas. 

One last plan for this year is to take Mya to the snow. I also plan on writing Sophia's name in the snow.

So that is where we stand for the rest of the year.

Day 29:

What are your beliefs as far as where you think your child(ren) is/are. Will you see each other again?

I was born and raised catholic, as well as Eddie. Mya is baptized catholic. Though I do not really, at the moment practice my religion the way I should, I do believe that Sophia is in heaven. I believe that one day I will get to meet her face to face and that will be quite the honor.

Day 28:

Have you ever corrected or wish you corrected someone about your loss?

Yes I have.

I know my brother Josh really is not in our everyday picture in life and Mya has only seen her Uncle Josh 4 times in life. One night on my way home from work he and I were talking and I made a comment about Sophia. He asked who? It instantly broke my heart. I immediately told him "Sophia you niece, she passed away, Mya's twin sister.

Day 27:

Share a picture.

What is this picture might you ask. It is a picture of the balloon release at WTRLA this year. I would have to say this was the most emotional moment for me by far in WTRLA's history. It was just a powerful thing the song selected was perfect the moment was perfect.

Day 25:

On Birthday's, Diagnosis Day's, Anniversaries of Passing. How do you handle them?

I would have to say every year it is different. I am at peace with the end result after all is said and done and I think that is a good thing for me.

Day 24:

On Birthday's, Diagnosis Day's, Anniversaries of Passing. Do you prepare for them?


Personally as a twin Mom things are a little different for me. The first two years I treated June 30th as Mya's special day (their birth day) and I treated March 11th as Sophia's day. But this year maybe because of cancer I felt like I could not treat them as two separate days. 


This year June 30th went as follows. Sophia and Mya we did special things to remember Sophia. I have always had a flower on Mya's birthday cake to symbolize Sophia. We did that.


As for January 15th (our diagnosis day), I remember it as the day my life as a blissfully ignorant pregnant woman went out the door.


March 11th (the day Sophia passed away) will always be that day. I dread it, still. I don't think I will every not dread it but in a way there is good and bad to that. It is 4 days before a major tax deadline and three days after Eddie's birthday. This year we Celebrated Sophia on March 13th as tax time kind of got in the way. But we still remembered her. That is what counts right?

Day 23:

Besides changing the outcome, what is one thing you would have done differently?

There is only one thing I would change. I would have got to see my daughter.

Day 22:

Do you have a song or songs that make you think of your child(ren)?

To not keep going with the same repetitive things here are a couple of posts that will tell you the answer to this question:

Day 18   and   A Song that makes me cry

Day 21:

 Is there something about your child(ren) that brings a smile to your face?

I would say anytime I see Mya experiencing something new and seeing her joy or interest brings a smile to my face. But on the same token I have had many a times when it has brought a tear too. Most recently at Mya's First Dance Recital I could not keep it together. 

For Sophia anytime someone thinks of her and send me a picture remembering her it brings a huge smile to my face. That is why I collect Sophia's name. It brings me peace.

Day 20:

If you have anger.....What are you most angry about?

I personally would have to say I am not so angry now.  Since my Meeting at Huntington I feel that a lot of my anger is gone now. Don't get me wrong I would still love to tell the anesthesiologist how much of an ass he is but I feel that I am in a better place now.

Day 19

What is your happiest memory of your child(ren)?

I would have to say the happiest memory of Sophia and Mya as a duo would be January 4, 2008. Our second doctors appointment and the first time Eddie got to see Sophia and Mya. To see Eddie's face light up the way it did to know that in that room we were all there. This is my best moment with my family of four.

Day 18:

Have you found something that puts you at peace?

There are several things in life that put me at peace. Being with my family is usually number one. But music is also a very peaceful thing for me. I have always said music is a very powerful thing to me. I sometimes don't even listen to words, it is the music I hear. Music is a story, with music you can make your own story. That is power right at your finger tips.

I personally have songs that are memorable to me. Songs that make me think of things in the past for instance here are a few examples of what certain songs make me think of certain things:

When thinking of Eddie and I we have a few songs that come to mind. The first being the song we call "our song" Somebody. Next I would have to say would be Can't Wait, by Hepcat. In the early days of Eddie and Cassie we went to A LOT of ska shows. Though I knew of ska before Eddie, he showed me a whole new world of ska. 

When I think of Mya, I always play Sweet Child O Mine. This is my Mya song. Though Mya is growing to be quite the music lover herself and she any I listen to various things all the time this is the song that brings a smile to my face.

The day Sophia passed away and the last time I felt her kick I was listening to Dirty Reggae by the Aggrolites. And this memory will always bring me to peace. 

If I am just thinking of Sophia in general and I want to think of the beauty that is my daughter I listen to a song I have always loves from the bottom of my heart and again this is a perfect example of how I don't particularly listen to the words. But I always think to myself that Sophia did in her short life was nothing but wonderful so that is why I always think of What A Wonderful World.. I know she gave one hell of a fight not only for her self but for Mya. That is why this is my Sophia Song.

When I am thinking about WTRLA, I listen to Somewhere Over The Rainbow. I use to think this was such a beautiful song when I first heard it on Meet Joe Black. 

It is still amazing to me how as a mother of loss you use to think things had such beauty and then after a loss they bring on a whole new beauty. 

Day 17

Do you feel your child is watching over you?

I don't feel Sophia is watching over me. I do however feel Sophia watches over Mya all the time. In turn I also feel that Mya remembers Sophia. I guess it is one of those crazy twin things. I just don't know. 

I worry for that fact that Mya will suffer from missing her other half. Sophia should have been her partner in crime. Sometime I worry if I am being selfish in not wanting (or being afraid) to have more children will hurt Mya in the long run. But on the other hand that is why Eddie and I have started talking about adoption. 

Before I start a whole new blog post. Sophia does watch over us. She kept Mya safe before she passed away and she keeps Mya safe now.

Not many people can say they have their very own guardian angel, but Mya can, he twin sister Sophia.

Day 16

Do you take time for yourself?

Life has got the best of me but I have started to take time for myself. It took me a very long time to realize that I need to start taking time for myself.

Though all of my health issues, being a parent, working, doing my work with WTRLA and everything else in life I now know I need to take time for myself or I will get no where.......fast.

Through the wonders of Pinterest I have started crafting more again. Though my room is filled with new fabric waiting to be used. It will get used. Monica and I are doing Temple City Harvest Hoedown this weekend and that should be fun. 

I have also tried to be better about my blog, which proves to be hard at times because real life comes first not writing about life. 

Day 15:

Today is Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Awareness Day. What are you doing today?

What did I do today? Well first I want to thank EVERYONE that came out today to walk in honor of their children, brothers, sisters, grandchildren, nieces and nephews. I also want to thank the people that came out to support all of us parents. Though we may not show it, it means the world to us that you remember our children too!

Last night was a little hectic but we worked everything out. By 1am I checked in to my hotel and got 4 peaceful good hours of sleep. Who would have thought sleep could be that good when only in that little amount? Got up this morning took a shower, stopped for some oatmeal and a latte at Starbucks and was at the park waiting for my suppliers to arrive. While waiting a lovely little skunk walked though our area, I thought it was best to stay in my car and wait for him to leave. 

In about 15 minutes he was gone and everyone started arriving. Things were in full swing. Personally,  I have to say this year things went so much better. We had a plan and it happened. 

By 9:00 walkers started arriving. At 10:10 the memorial service started. I can not begin to thank Sharon enough for her wonderful, loving, POWERFUL words. Things were just went so well. 

This year I walked 1/3 of the route. It was so powerful to see the names of all that babies that have gone too soon. I walked with Martha and Lisa it seemed like I knew almost all of their stories as we walked.

When we got back everyone was ready for the balloon release. I have to say this was the most powerful thing EVER. I don't know if it was the choice of music or if it was the number of balloons flying it was simply amazing. Simply so powerful. Just beautiful.

 After the walk was over I went to lunch with one of my fellow twin mama's Dana. We had a nice lunch then I went back to my hotel to relax a little bit before heading over to Hilltop Park. 


The candle lighting went well minus the wind but we took care of it.


I would have to say I am so happy with the way this all turned out this year. I think we will always do the balloon release. To me that was the best part of the day. 


I hope everyone found peace with their day of remembrance. As I did.

Day 14:

What have you done to preserve your child's memories or make new memories of your angel?

The reason I started WTRLA was in Sophia's honor. I have always said I am so blessed to by the mom of two beautiful girls and this is the least I can do for Sophia. 

One thing I need to do and have not done is start Sophia's scrapbook. I don't know why but I am so intimidated to start it and like I said I just don't know why. I have so many beautiful pictures people have taken for me with her name and I just have not done it. But I will one day. 

Like mentioned before and above I collect Sophia's name in various places and her book will be forever growing. 

Every year around this time I will walk in her honor. I will celebrate Sophia and I will never forget my beautiful daughter.

Day 13:

Does anyone else besides your speak your child's name?

Mya speaks Sophia's name and I love it every single time she does, though she does not know the specifics of Sophia, she still knows there is a Sophia in our life.

I do feel like people still speak of Sophia, but on the other hand I don't try to push Sophia on anyone as well. If it seems that I am I say, I am sorry.

What Did She Say?

Tonight was my big night. If you remember on September 28, 2011 I went to Huntington to speak with the Parent Connection coordinator about my experience at Huntington as a patient. I told her I needed to speak to her before I accepted the invitation to be a guest speaker for tonight. 

On my way home from work I read my speech one more time to be sure I was happy with it. I started bawling as I was reading it. I don't know what came over me. Maybe I just needed to get it out, who knows. 

So here it is, what I said for all of you to read:

Good Evening. My name is Cassie Beserra. I am the mother of beautiful twin girls. My twin A, Sophia Rene and my twin B, Mya Quinn. I am also the founder of Walk to Remember, Los Angeles, a non-profit organization that provides support to families that have lost a child during pregnancy or infancy. We also provide support to all the hospitals here in LA County. My goal is to provide them with all the tools necessary to help families at the time of their loss.

My husband Eddie and I found out 11 weeks into my pregnancy my twin A was ill. A diagnosis of Turners Syndrome, Cystic Hygroma and Hydrops was given and it would most likely be that she would not even survive pregnancy. We also found out that day that "she" was a little girl. Sophia quickly became known as our little fighter.

A month had gone by and she was still fighting, her condition kept getting worse but she was fighting at that time we also found out her twin was another girl.

I always tried to think to myself there was nothing wrong with Sophia, it was an error, there are always things that are missed in the world of medicine.

Another month had gone by and she was still fighting. I was starting to feel like Sophia was defying all odds and there would be a chance I would get to meet both of my daughters. Then a week later we went in to our specialist and those words were said "I am sorry there is no heartbeat on twin A"

No matter how much you prepare you can NEVER prepare enough to hear those words. Our daughter, Sophia Rene Beserra passed away on March 11, 2008.

Throughout my work with Walk to Remember, Los Angeles I always find myself making two specific comments, the first "if I knew then what I know now" and "one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life is juggle such grief and sorrow with such happiness" Because there I was still pregnant with twins, grieving for one of my daughters and still trying to nurcher the other. Since Sophia is our twin A we were told there could be many complications after she passed away. I was put on bed rest for 3 months. The two things I started looking forward to became going to 1 of 3 doctors or going for blood work. But I did it. I kept going. I had one goal in mind.....Bring home one healthy baby.

On June 30th at 34 1/2 weeks we welcomed Mya Quinn Beserra into this world and said good bye to "My Sweet Sophia"

Even after Sophia had passed away I still had this feeling that as long as she was still inside of me she was safe. Knowing she was leaving her little nest broke my heart. But knowing that I managed to make it far enough to have Mya to a point where she was out of danger was also a huge accomplishment.

About 2 1/2 years ago I was reading that some parents find it healing to collect their child's name in various places. So that is what I started doing. I have built a collection of "Sophia" pictures that is so beautiful in my eyes. "Sophia" has had pictures taken throughout the US and even as far as Canada, Italy, Australia and The Great Pyramids of Egypt. It warms my heart to know that even for a minute someone else is thinking of our daughter. So though I have no pictures of Sophia I see each and every one of these pictures as the beauty of my daughter and I know that her name lives on.

In May of 2010 I started Walk to Remember, Los Angeles. My feeling was I am so blessed to be a mother to Mya, this was the least I could do for Sophia. On Saturday we will be having our 2nd Annual Memorial Ceremony, 5k and candle lighting. Much like tonight it is a time of reflection and a time to remember our beautiful children. While they have left our arms, they have not left our hearts. It is such a day of togetherness and there is such a feeling that you are not alone. Every one here and everyone who attends WTRLA share a common bond and a common understanding.

I would like to thank Huntington Memorial and Mary Holzer for asking me to be part of tonight and I would like to thank everyone here for listening to my story.

Thank you.

So that was it. I was happy I got to be a part of a special evening. Unfortunately no one took pictures but it was a nice evening.

I want to thank, Eddie, Mya, Eddie, Alice, My Mom, Aunt Joan and Monica for joining me tonight.

Day 12:

How has the rest of your family dealt with your loss?

My family is all over the place. Being involved in WTRLA many of them have shown their support for my mission. Some come some don't. I don't hold that against any of them at all.

My close family has seen how much WTRLA means to me and have shown a little more support. If it were not for them I don't know how far WTRLA would have come. 

I remember when one of my best childhood friends passed away when Mya was 1 month old. I had to to his services and I asked one of Eddie's cousins if she could stay with Mya. When I returned home she asked if we had a private service for Sophia. I told her no, we had nothing. But in a way it still felt good to know that our family was there for us. After all we went from being pregnant to expecting twins to knowing Sophia was ill to Sophia's passing to giving birth to them all in front of them. 

I remember Christmas 2007 when my aunt gave us three little baby things that were neutral because she knew with twins we would need everything. This goes to show everyone experienced our loss with us. Everyone gave us our space when needed and everyone loved and welcomed Mya's safe arrival. 

So all and all we have a mix of family support. But tonight as I am a guest speaker at Huntington for "A Night to Remember" I will have family there supporting me. Really that is a huge thing to know I have their support.

Day 11:

 It is said that Father's and Mother's grieve differently. 

Do you feel this is true with your angel's father?

I 100% agree with this. From day one of us finding out Sophia was ill Eddie went into survival mode. It seemed all he wanted to ensure is that we brought home one child. 

I know he heard the facts of everything. He analyzed it rationally. I however looked at it as "what if they are wrong, what if she is fine, I hope everything will be fine"

I simply put looked at it as any mother would hoping and praying to God that both of my babies would survive. 

Eddie listens to me when I want to vent about Sophia but he really does not give his input. He is supportive of me but if you ask him we are defiantly in two different places.

Day 10:

 If you have Rainbows or older children do they know and remember your angel(s)?

In a technical manner Mya is my very own Rainbow as she is twin B. I think I summed everything up HERE. 

Day 9:

If you have other children how has your loss effected them? 

If you don't other children how has your loss affected your relationship with your partner?

I always have these thoughts in my head how Sophia's passing away will effect Mya. Did Sophia's passing effect Mya in utero? The other big question I have been thinking about now is, now that I am so involved with WTRLA what will Mya think of this when she is a little older?

Besides all of these bad thoughts that cross my mind from time to time our life is at follows. Last year at WTRLA my friend Jessica made Mya a Sophia elephant. She to this day still loves her Sophia. The day after the walk she insisted on taking Sophia to Disneyland with her. 

Sophia was cremated. We have her ashes at home with us. I feel that keeps our family complete. In January another mother of loss Fran made me the most awesome box to put her in. I have also added little mementos to the box. One of them is a glass heart we got from Huntington last year for the "A Night to Remember" we received a little glass heart and again Mya is always playing with that heart. She knows it is "Sophia's Heart" and when she is done playing with it she puts it back in Sophia's box. 

I do not tell Mya she is a twin, but Sophia does come up in conversation. We have a magnet in our kitchen that is a butterfly that was given to me from Charlotte, Matty's Grandma. Mya will ask about the butterfly and I will tell her that is Sophia's. Or she will ask something about Sophia and I will simply reply Sophia, your sister. That is about as basic as our conversations get. But none the less I am happy that is as complex as the get. We went from the joyous day of Mya simply saying "Fia" to know her knowing things that belong to Sophia.

I could not ask for more at this time. I know a time will come where I will tell her the story of Sophia and Mya before she was born. Frankly I am a little scared of that day. 

Day 8:

Do you feel you have more good days than bad ones?

I think this year has been a very different year for me. Though there are so many wonderful things going on I have had a tough year. My life has been filled with doctors and being sick most of this year. I have a whole new respect for the medical community for two reasons. Cancer is a bitch and I finally spoke my mind to Huntington Hospital about all the negative things that happened in my situation.

I would have to say between years one and two I had a lot of bad days that were related to the grief process. But I will tell you that things well start to feel a little better. I know when a loss is so fresh and new those words hurt more than anything imaginable. But in time you will feel somewhat normal again, somewhat function-able. I will also tell you it does take time. 

So to sum this up I think as far as the grief process in concerned I have more good days. As far as the year in general I would say there a lot of bad days around here.

Day 7:

 Do you do something to honor your angel(s)? If so what?

I collect Sophia's name. I started collecting her name around the girls 1st birthday. I will never forget seeing Sophia's name in the sand the day after Mya's 1st birthday party and Father's Day. This will always be Sophia's first name print I collected. I love it and treasure it so much. 

Since then I have collected so many more. I would have to say these are a few of my favorites: 

 Thank you Karen for making this candle for Sophia. I have it displayed on my armoir

 Thank you Katie

 Thank you Shey. I love to tell people I have Sophia's name in Egypt.

 Sophia in Italy. Thank you so much Alex for taking the time in your trip to think of Sophia.

Thank you Tami for thinking of Sophia last year for your "Sisters Through Tragedy" project.

I have over 50 photos of Sophia's name. I love each and every one of them. I know each picture represents a moment that someone was thinking of my sweet little girl and I love that. So thank you everyone that has helped keep Sophia's memory alive.

Day 6:

How do you answer the question of how many children you have?

I can never answer this question without hesitation. I always have to go through that pause a minute, think about it and then answer. Yet I always answer with some sort of explanation. I don't know if it is because I owe it to myself or Sophia but I can not just say:

 "She is our only one"

"Just one" 

"Yes she is our only child, thank you!"

For some reason the things that come out of my mouth are:

" She is our only living child"

"She is a twin, her sister past away"

"One, with us"

I feel so guilty every time I get asked this I feel such guilt. I just don't know why.

Day 5

Do you ever get subtle reminders of your angel(s)? If so what what are they? *Winks*

I have never been a dreamer. I have not really believed in signs. But recently I did feel like I had a Sophia moment. It started with one little rainbow.

I think with collecting Sophia's name every time I get a new picture that is a wink. Because it brings such happiness to my heart to know someone other than myself is thinking of Sophia for one moment.



Day 4:

Through your grief process what has kept you going?

There are many things that have kept me going. And there were many reasons I had set backs for that matter too! So in no particular order here is what keeps me going:

    1. Mya "The" Quinn Beserra

    2. Walk to Remember, Los Angeles

                I brings a smile to my face when someone tells me I have helped them. That means I

                am doing mt job, the job I set out to do last year.

    3. Music

                I don't know if it is the marching band in me or my family of musicians but music has always

                been a powerful thing to me.

    4. Dr. Pepper

                Oh how I love you!

    5. Family

                No joke, I talk to my mom daily. Eddie and everyone else that I consider my family.

    6. Support Groups

                I started attending support group last year and until then I did not realized it still hurt.

    7. Looking forward

               I have learned the only way to look is forward. Looking back will not keep you moving. Don't

               get me wrong you have to always remember but there is not reason to over analyze the past.

               It is the past and unless you have some magic or way to change the pass there is no reason to

               keep analyzing everything from the past.

So here is what has kept me going for the last three and half years since we heard those words: "I am sorry twin A no longer has a heart beat"

Though some of these things are petty (Dr. Pepper) I still think this is what has kept me afloat.

Day 3: Through your grief process who has been your "rock"

Day 3: Through your grief process who has been your "rock"

Hands down if I did not have Eddie to look at everything rationally not emotionally. Eddie always looked at we had to do what was best to get one of our little girls home. Though we would have with out a doubt taken both of them. 

I have said in the past being pregnant and grieving at the same time have been one of the hardest things I have done in my life.  But Eddie was there. Eddie was there to remind me I still need to keep a calm head about me to get through all of this.

Then Mya blessed us pretty much as healthy as can be for a preemie. I devoted all of my time to Mya. Mya became my rock. My focus and my everything.

I think my lucky stars for Eddie and Mya.

Day 2: Your Children

Day 2: Tell us about your children. As much or as little as you like. Names, birthdays, stats.

Sophia: My twin A. Sophia Rene Beserra is her name. I have always called her "My Sweet Sophia" She was born on June 30th, 2008 at 8:15pm weighing in at 15.9 oz. She passed away 14 weeks before birth on March 11, 2008. Sophia gave such a good fight for her sister. We believe she may have saved her sisters life.

On June 20, 2009 the say after Mya's first birthday party I received my first picture with Sophia's name. Since then I have collected over 40 different pictures with Sophia's name written in various places in the world. I see all of these beautiful pictures as a way to take the place of the pictures I will never of Sophia. Sophia's has changed my life in so many ways and I thank her for that.

Mya: My twin B. Mya Quinn Beserra (or Mya "the" Quinn Beserra as she says it). Mya was born at 8:16 pm weighing 5 lbs 8oz. 18 1/2 inches long. Mya spent 5 hours in the NICU as hospital policy and her only real complication was a heart murmur which seems to have corrected itself.

Mya is a very lively little girl. Mya goes through shoes like you would not believe. Though she has tons of shoes she plays so hard she has worn out a pair of Target shoes in one school day. Mya plays hard and has an imagination like you would not believe. She is funny and loves to laugh.

Mya loves to play dress up. Mya loves being a kid. Mya still sucks her thumb at bedtime and loves to sleep in Mommy's bed. Mya is my rock and Eddie and I love being Mya's parents.

These are my two girls. Sophia and Mya.

Day 1: Who are you? Share as little or as much about you in general.

Day 1: Who are you? Share as little or as much about you in general.

My name is Cassie Beserra. I am a Face of Loss and I am also a story of HOPE. I am also a mother of two very special little girls. I am a mom of twins. I am a mother of a surviving twin. Mya is my rock. With out her in my life I have no clue where I would be. I thank her all the time for that.

I am 31. I live in Monrovia, CA. I am the founder of Walk to Remember, Los Angeles, I also love to craft, spend time with my family and just be me. I am a Mother, Wife, Daughter, Big Sister, Daughter In-law, and most of all I am ME! Family is everything to me and I strive for Mya to know as much of her family as possible.

What I have learned since starting my journey as a "Mother of Loss" is no matter what people tell you, it is OK to be you. It is OK to feel the way you do and be yourself. Even if being yourself means that you have to find a new normal, which I am happy to say I have.

I am Cassie, Mommy to Sophia Rene and Mya Quinn. My two precious girls I love with all my heart.

31 Days Blogging Challenge for Mothers of Loss

I have created this blog challenge in honor of Pregnancy & Infancy Loss Awareness Month. Please feel free to join me.

Day 1: Who are you? Share as little or as much about you in general.
Day 2: Tell us about your child(ren). As much or as little as you like. Names, birthdays, stats.
Day 3: Through your grief process who has been your "rock"
Day 4: Through your grief process what has kept you going?
Day 5: Do you ever get subtle reminds of your angel(s)? If so what what are they? *Winks*
Day 6: How do you answer the question of how many children you have?
Day 7: Do you do something to honor your angel(s)? If so what?
Day 8: Do you feel you have more good days than bad ones?
Day 9: If you have other children how has your loss affected them? If you don't other children how has your loss affected your relationship with your partner?
Day 10: If you have Rainbows or older children do they know and remember your angel(s)?
Day 11: It is said that Father's and Mother's grieve differently. Do you feel this is true with your angel's father?
Day 12: How has the rest of your family dealt with your loss?
Day 13: Does anyone else besides your speak your child's name?
Day 14: What have you done to preserve your child's memories or make new memories of your angel.
Day 15: Today is Pregnancy and Infancy Loss Awareness Day. What are you doing today?
Day 16: Do you take time for yourself?
Day 17: Do you feel your child is watching over you?
Day 18: Have you found something that puts you at peace?
Day 19: What is your happiest memory of your child(ren)?
Day 20: If you have anger.....What are you most angry about?
Day 21: Is there something about your child(ren) that brings a smile to your face?
Day 22: Do you have a song or songs that make you think of your child(ren)
Day 23: Besides changing the outcome, what is one thing you would have done differently?
Day 24: On Birthday's, Diagnosis Day's, Anniversaries of Passing. Do you prepare for them?
Day 25: On Birthday's, Diagnosis Day's, Anniversaries of Passing. How do you handle them?
Day 26: On a scale of 1 to 10 rate your day today and why?
Day 27: Share a picture.
Day 28: Have you ever corrected or wish you corrected someone about your loss?
Day 29: What are your beliefs as far as where you think your child(ren) is/are. Will you see each other again?
Day 30: How are your preparing for the end of the year? (ie: Holiday's and starting a new year)
Day 31: Do you feel like 31 days has helped you open up more about your child(ren) and your grief?

This challenge does not need to be completed each day in October. Do a day as your feel comfortable. Thank you for joining me.